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I was a mum of 2 that smoked marijuana EVERYDAY and ALL DAY as much as I could, it eased my mind, the pain & the stress. I use to get extremely high to the point where I slept & didn't even worry about my kids needs, I slept instead of feeding them, I slept instead of taking them out & I slept instead of caring for them. I had 2 amazing babies who needed a mother but instead I chose to be an addict for weed. Smoking it was good as a teenager but as I got older it just became a need not a want anymore. When I had my first baby I smoked throughout my whole pregnancy not worrying about what it did or how it affected her, I was just worried about myself and what I WANTED. As my baby got older she started talking saying things like "Mum I'm hungry feed me please" and my response was "I can't be bothered leave me alone I'm trying to sleep I'll feed you when I wake up", I woke up mid-day or around 2. Eventually I fed her, showered her, clothed her & then the process just repeated itself over and over and over again.
I would like to bring to light Domestic Violence and how to recognise situations you could go through before things get worse.
As a woman who has come out of an unhealthy relationship due to domestic violence I just want EVERYONE to know what to look out for in the beginning and as time moves forward, I myself have come to the realisation that being humiliated, physically abused, Emotionally abused & Mentally abused ISN'T what you call "LOVE" no matter how many times that person apologises.
In the beginning things will seem perfect, you will feel happy and healthy, you will embrace all that you have within your relationship he calls you "Beautiful", says things like "You're my everything" makes you feel so loved within a short amount of time but as time progresses and he continues to get more comfortable his TRUE COLOURS RISE TO THE SURFACE.
This same person who made you feel like YOU WERE ON TOP OF THE WORLD eventually becomes narcissistic, manipulative and conniving. This certain individual begins to
15 POINTS ON HOW TO IDENTIFY THE START OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE;
1. They take your money and allow you to have NOTHING in return.
2. Disregarding the health and safety of yourself.
3. High levels of tension on a daily basis.
4. Verbal Arguments.
5. Damaging your property when he doesn't get things his way.
6. Simple conversations or discussions become violent.
7. Keeping you isolated from certain family members.
8. Never allowing your own freedom.
9. Harassing you daily to see what your doing and who you're doing it with.
10. Laughing at situations instead
11. Controlling the way that you dress because they think others will constantly stare.
12. Never allows you to have a job.
13. When they use physical or verbal use to get you to do something and it makes you feel like a slave.
14. Tells you that you'll never be anything or be able to do better with your life.
15. When he makes you believe your family is useless and aren't there for you.
