Support can make a real difference—sometimes it’s the quiet, consistent presence of a trusted friend or family member that helps someone find the courage to break free.

👁️ Recognise the Signs
Abuse isn’t always visible. You may notice:

🔹 Constant checking in with their partner
🔹 Sudden changes in mood, appearance, or confidence
🔹 Isolation from friends or family
🔹 Excuses for injuries or frequent cancellations
🔹 Signs of fear when their partner is mentioned

You don’t need proof to offer support—concern is enough.

🗣️ Start the Conversation with Care
Bringing up abuse is difficult. Do it gently and without judgment.

🔹 “I’ve noticed you seem a bit withdrawn lately—are you okay?”
🔹 “You don’t seem as happy as you used to. I’m here if you want to talk.”
🔹 Avoid blaming their partner directly—focus on your concern for their wellbeing

Let them know they’re not alone, and that you’ll listen no matter what.

🚫 Avoid Pressure or Ultimatums
Leaving an abusive relationship is incredibly complex. It often takes time.

🔹 Don’t say “You need to leave” or “I would never let that happen”
🔹 Avoid speaking badly about their partner—it can shut the door on future talks
🔹 Instead, remind them they have choices and you’ll support them regardless

The goal is to empower—not take control.

🛟 Offer Practical Support
Survivors often feel trapped by fear, finances, or isolation.

🔹 Offer a safe space to stay or store belongings
🔹 Help research shelters, support services, or legal aid
🔹 Be willing to make safety plans or go with them to appointments

Small actions can help build a path to freedom.

🤍 Be Patient and Consistent
Even when it’s hard to watch, stay connected.

🔹 Keep in touch with simple messages: “Thinking of you,” or “Here if you need anything”
🔹 Celebrate any steps they take toward safety
🔹 Don’t withdraw your support if they return to the relationship—this is common and part of the process

Your consistency may be their lifeline.

📚 Educate Yourself
Understanding domestic violence helps you be a stronger support.

🔹 Learn about trauma bonding, the cycle of abuse, and the barriers to leaving
🔹 Avoid common myths (like “they must like it if they stay”)
🔹 Familiarise yourself with local resources or hotlines

Support is more powerful when it’s informed.

🌿 Final Thoughts 💞🌈
You can’t rescue someone—but you can walk beside them until they’re ready to take the next step.

Support isn’t about fixing; it’s about showing up, again and again, with compassion and belief.

Let them know: You are not alone. You are not to blame.

You deserve safety and love.

Sometimes, knowing someone truly sees them is the first light in a very dark tunnel.